Are Your Practices Creating the Future You Desire?

Are Your Practices Creating the Future You Desire?

We are shaped by practices and shape ourselves through practices.” Bob Dunham

Are your practices creating a more powerful life for you? Or, are they creating more of the breakdowns limiting your life?  I recently read a great blog by an associate and friend of mine, Jerry Holtaway,  entitled My morning disconnectionism“. Jerry breaks down how his practices were having a negative effect on his daily routine. The article reinforced what I know to be true in my life and in the life of every one of my clients. Our practices shape how we see the world. Are you willing to look at your practices?

From an ontological coaching perspective (ontology, the study of being human) we look at three factors that shape how we see the world:

The Body-  We exist in our body – you can not escape this reality. It is the ship that navigates your life. What are you practicing in your body?

Are you practicing a body that is strong and healthy, benefitting from exercise and healthy eating. On a daily basis is your body radiating energy and expanding, ready to embrace your interactions no matter how complex they may be?


Are you practicing a body that is worn down and tired, shrinking from the daily demands of life?  Do you fill your body with chemicals and manufactured foods?  Is your body contracting, merely getting you from place to place, and conserving what limited energy you have?

Language- Language is the fundamental human tool.  We are linguistic beings and we create stories through language to understand the world around us.  What are you practicing in language?

Are you making powerful requests that allow you to create the future you desire?  Are you having effective conversations for action with those around you?  Are you unlocking the potential that allows you and your team to fulfill on your promises?


Are you practicing using language to create stories that allow you to stay in your victimhood?  Are you complaining about another, instead of making a request so that they can fulfill your request?  Are your conversations for action more like conversations of inaction and disgust and frustration?

Moods and Emotions- As humans we are emotional beings.  Moods and Emotions shape how we see the world and give our stories their meaning. What are you practicing in your moods and emotions?

Are you seeing the world through powerful moods and emotions such as gratitude, acceptance, peace, ambition and wonder?  Do your moods and emotions allow you to see what is possible and what beauty the world has to offer?


Are you seeing the world through limiting moods and emotions such as resentment, anger, resignation (shows up as a rational excuse why things cannot change.) and anxiety? Do your moods and emotions limit what you see as possible and hinder your ability to see the beauty the world around you has to offer?

So, what are you practicing?  As Bob Dunham stated: “We are shaped by practices and shape ourselves through practices.” Therefore, whatever we are practicing, we are getting better at.  We are always practicing.  What we practice we become good at it.  For most of us, we have decades of practice, some of these practices help us, and some limit us. What we as leaders need to do is to choose what we practice.  After all, we are only living the one shot at life we have.  It may be time to change some of our practices.

Croft Edwards
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Croft’s deeply focused study of leadership and command, which earned him an MA in Civil War Studies, was a perfect prologue to his coaching of hundreds of individuals at all ... Click for full bio

Most Read IRIS Articles of the Week: July 17-21

Most Read IRIS Articles of the Week: July 17-21

Here’s a look at the Top 11 Most Viewed Articles of the Week on, July 17-21 2017 

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1. Is Alternative Beta the New Fixed Income?

The fee debate raging across mutual funds has long since seeped into hedge funds. Certainly the direction of travel on hedge fund fees was already downward, as strong industry competition and underwhelming performance have taken their toll. — Yazann Romahi

2. The 5 Big Questions for the Second Half of 2017

Equity markets continued their strong run in the second quarter of 2017, thanks to the global economy hitting its stride and registering the fastest level of growth in six years. For the first time since 2011, the U.S. is no longer the only shining star as economic momentum picked up across the globe. — Sonu Varghese

3. Smart Beta ETFs: The "Dream Diet" for Your Portfolio

What’s powerful about Smart Beta is that it allows investors to target very specific factors to create an ideal portfolio based on a given asset allocation.  — Salvatore Bruno

4. D‐O‐L = Confusion, Frustration, and Finally Reluctant Acceptance and Hope

At almost every financial and insurance conference we’ve attended in the past year, sessions to discuss the Department of Labor (DOL) Fiduciary Rule have been among the most popular. — Merriah Harkins

5. How To Hold A Stress-Free Money Conversation

In researching high growth professional services firms we made an eye-opening discovery. Those firms that did systematic business research on their target client group grew faster and were more profitable. — Michael Kay

6. 12 Financial Truths (Including Some You Won't Like)

We live in a noisy world where wisdom is hard to discern.  Here are a dozen financial truths honed from more than three decades of observation. — James E. Wilson

7. Are You Responsible for How Others Take Your Actions?

If you keep getting the same actions or responses from your interactions, it is most likely you that is the problem.  Stop blaming others for your issues. — Matthew Halloran​​​​​​​

8. 4 Surefire Ways to Enhance Your Influence

Being influential through your verbal and non-verbal communication Monday to Monday® requires deliberate practice. You can’t read how-to’s in a book or rely on your title and comfort level to be influential. — Stacey Hanke​​​​​​​

9. How Business Owners Allow Coffee Shops to Waste Time and Money

We all search for the least chaotic place to work and think. However, your location could hurt your productivity. Here’s why…. — Jennifer Goldman​​​​​​​

10. Four Simple Tricks to Find Your Passion That Work Every Time

You’re supposed to have a single burning passion, right? To feel this incredible drive to do this thing that you love. — Alli Polin

11. The Greatest Disrupter to Your Future Practice Will Be Your Clients

Real innovation, and real disruption, will be concepts and methods which “do new things that make the old things obsolete”. — Tony Vidler

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