A Trait We All Have, but Often Forget About

A Trait We All Have, but Often Forget About

I still remember the first time I did a lot of things in life. And the moments just before I did it...the feeling of fear, exhilaration, and not sure how it would all turn out. 

Like the first time I:

Rode a bike without training wheels.
Stepped on the ice rink for my first lesson.
Arrived at Penn State as a clueless, wide-eyed freshman.
Went on my first career interview.
Worked with my first client.

And every single time of these “firsts,” I recall that feeling. And how that powerful feeling could have stopped me in my tracks, but I went for it anyway, because I knew I had to do it. The fear was overturned by a voice inside me that said: “Just do it, Sarah!”

The voice in my 5-year old self to ride that bike without training wheels. I fell a few times, but was soon zooming around the neighborhood like a champ.

The voice in my 8-year old self to step on the ice. I fell once or twice that day, but just a few months later, won 1st place in the ice skating competition.

The voice in my 18-year old self that accepted the offer to attend Penn State. One of the best decisions I ever made - I'll never forget the academics, experiences, relationships, and memories as a result.

The voice in my 22-year old self to take that interview. While I didn't get THAT job, I "practiced" for an upcoming interview at my dream job - which I landed.

The voice in my 33-year old self to work with that client. Not only did I help that client with her goals at the time, but she recently hired me again to help her achieve new ones!

And with each of these firsts in my life, I remember what happened right after I did them. I remember falling, I remember feeling awkward, I remember being nervous. I never felt totally ready.

And guess what? Those moments were merely moments, and as time went on, I didn’t fall as much, I felt confident, and I knew I was in the right place.


That voice telling me to “Just do it, Sarah!” is a voice you have too. It guides you to do things when you are afraid, aren’t sure about it, don’t feel “ready,” and might fail.

That voice is courage.


And I think a lot of times we forget how much courage we have inside of us. I know I often forget, and need to constantly remind myself as I have new "firsts" I want to achieve. And as time goes by, we seem to be faced with bigger “firsts”, like:

Changing jobs or careers.
Starting a business.
Starting a new relationship.
Moving to a new city.
Having our first child.

And when you’re faced with these decisions, think back to your original firsts and big decisions you made, and that voice you listened to that guided you. That courage.

You and I have so much courage, yet we often overlook it. We get caught up in the grind of life; we get caught up with what everyone else is doing (thanks, social media feed!), and we get caught up with what we feel we “should” be doing based on so many factors. We tell ourselves we aren't smart, strong, or worthy enough. We completely forget of all the courageous things we've already done!

Think about potential “firsts” you have on the horizon, or deep down what your inner voice is whispering for you to do. Consider what’s holding you back - and think back to your other firsts in life to inspire you to move forward.

Share with us below what firsts you have on the horizon - and we'll send positive vibes (and courage) your way! 

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Most Read IRIS Articles of the Week: April 17-21

Most Read IRIS Articles of the Week: April 17-21

Here’s a look at the Top 11 Most Viewed Articles of the Week on IRIS.xyz, April 17-21, 2017 


Click the headline to read the full article.  Enjoy!


1. Market Keeping You up at Night? Look for the Right Hedge


Like so many others in the industry, I was wrong. For years, I was certain that the bull market was nearing its end. I thought the market was over-extended, and that, surely, the wild equities run was coming to an end. But everyone else was bullish, and perhaps rightfully so. And while I’ve watched equities continue on their spectacular rise, I do think now is the time (really!) to put a hedge in place. Here’s why. Here’s how. — Adam Patti

2. How to Manage Bond Market Pain and Seek the Gain When Rates Are Rising


The realities for fixed income investors have changed. How is this being reflected in markets? Bond investing has become increasingly difficult over the past decade. Markets have been heavily distorted by ultra-low interest rates and quantitative easing, as well as by extreme risk aversion in response to the global economic crisis and the eurozone debt crisis. — Nick Gartside

3. Seven Reasons You'll Fail as a Financial Advisor


Is being a financial advisor worth it? I am an optimistic person and I encourage other people to keep a positive mental attitude (shout-out to Napoleon Hill and W. Clement Stone). However, by taking a good, hard look at the negatives in life, we can successfully pivot towards the positive aspects that will help us achieve our goals. — James Pollard

4. The Secret to Turning Every Prospect into a Client


How do you treat one of your most valued, existing clients? Here’s a list of some things that come to mind. — Andrew Sobel

5. Why Do Clients Change Advisors?


According to many advisors I speak with, the only clients that leave are those who have died. And while attrition may not be a big problem in this industry, I have to assume that at least a few clients change advisors without doing so via the funeral home. — Julie Littlechild

6. Why You Should Focus on Getting Referral Sources


I was talking with an advisor last week about how to get into conversations about what he does. He was relaying the story of going jogging with a friend who could be a good client but is, more importantly, connected to a large network of people who fit this advisors ideal client description. — Stephen Wershing

7. How Big Picture Thinkers Seize More Opportunities in 7 Steps


Big picture thinkers are not unicorns - rare and mystical. And they were not born with the innate ability to think big. They do, however, pay attention to the broader landscape and take the time to think, analyze and evaluate. — Jill Houtman and Danny Domenighini

8. 5 Actions to Build Your Reputation


Your reputation is who you are and how you show up, Monday to Monday®.  Many of us take our image and reputation for granted.  Give careful thought to the kind of reputation that you would be proud of Monday to Monday® and that would resonate with your purpose and priorities. — Stacey Hanke

9. How Are You Poised to Begin Welcoming GenZ to Your Workplace?


The generational changing of the guard is a fact of life as old as time. Young replaces old in responsibility, importance, control and culture. Outside of the family, the workplace is perhaps where this is seen most regularly by most people. — Shirley Engelmeier

10. Are Price Objections REALLY Price Objections?


Next time you hear your prospects give you price objections, it’s not because of the price. The give price objections because they don’t know the full value proposition that they’d be paying for. And it’s not based on their need, or your features and functions. It’s based on the buying criteria they want to meet internally. — Sofia Carter

11. Understanding the Economic Value of Transition Deals


Last week we wrote about the economic rationale behind going independent vs. moving to another major firm as an employee. As a follow-up topic, we thought it prudent to analyze transition packages attached to big firm moves and peel back the layers of the onion to show the components of these deals. — Louis Diamond

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