A Trait We All Have, but Often Forget About

A Trait We All Have, but Often Forget About

I still remember the first time I did a lot of things in life. And the moments just before I did it...the feeling of fear, exhilaration, and not sure how it would all turn out. 

Like the first time I:

Rode a bike without training wheels.
Stepped on the ice rink for my first lesson.
Arrived at Penn State as a clueless, wide-eyed freshman.
Went on my first career interview.
Worked with my first client.

And every single time of these “firsts,” I recall that feeling. And how that powerful feeling could have stopped me in my tracks, but I went for it anyway, because I knew I had to do it. The fear was overturned by a voice inside me that said: “Just do it, Sarah!”

The voice in my 5-year old self to ride that bike without training wheels. I fell a few times, but was soon zooming around the neighborhood like a champ.

The voice in my 8-year old self to step on the ice. I fell once or twice that day, but just a few months later, won 1st place in the ice skating competition.

The voice in my 18-year old self that accepted the offer to attend Penn State. One of the best decisions I ever made - I'll never forget the academics, experiences, relationships, and memories as a result.

The voice in my 22-year old self to take that interview. While I didn't get THAT job, I "practiced" for an upcoming interview at my dream job - which I landed.

The voice in my 33-year old self to work with that client. Not only did I help that client with her goals at the time, but she recently hired me again to help her achieve new ones!

And with each of these firsts in my life, I remember what happened right after I did them. I remember falling, I remember feeling awkward, I remember being nervous. I never felt totally ready.

And guess what? Those moments were merely moments, and as time went on, I didn’t fall as much, I felt confident, and I knew I was in the right place.


That voice telling me to “Just do it, Sarah!” is a voice you have too. It guides you to do things when you are afraid, aren’t sure about it, don’t feel “ready,” and might fail.

That voice is courage.


And I think a lot of times we forget how much courage we have inside of us. I know I often forget, and need to constantly remind myself as I have new "firsts" I want to achieve. And as time goes by, we seem to be faced with bigger “firsts”, like:

Changing jobs or careers.
Starting a business.
Starting a new relationship.
Moving to a new city.
Having our first child.

And when you’re faced with these decisions, think back to your original firsts and big decisions you made, and that voice you listened to that guided you. That courage.

You and I have so much courage, yet we often overlook it. We get caught up in the grind of life; we get caught up with what everyone else is doing (thanks, social media feed!), and we get caught up with what we feel we “should” be doing based on so many factors. We tell ourselves we aren't smart, strong, or worthy enough. We completely forget of all the courageous things we've already done!

Think about potential “firsts” you have on the horizon, or deep down what your inner voice is whispering for you to do. Consider what’s holding you back - and think back to your other firsts in life to inspire you to move forward.

Share with us below what firsts you have on the horizon - and we'll send positive vibes (and courage) your way! 

Sarah Bogdanski
Personal Development
Twitter Email

Sarah Bogdanski is an NYU Certified Coach who helps ambitious women in their 20s and 30s stop merely surviving and step into their true power. Sarah challenges her clients to ... Click for full bio

Most Read IRIS Articles of the Week: May 22-26

Most Read IRIS Articles of the Week: May 22-26

Here’s a look at the Top 11 Most Viewed Articles of the Week on IRIS.xyz, May 22-26, 2017 


Click the headline to read the full article.  Enjoy!


1. Capturing the Attention of Millennials: Be Relevant and Digital


I know Gen Y are stereotyped as being transient, digital natives who are impossible to capture, but that is just the world we live in today. Technology has caused a proliferation of advancements and the financial services industry is (or should be) feeling the pressure ... — Missy Pohlig

2. Factor in a Smarter Approach to ETFs


Combining an alternatively-weighted index with a multi-factor stock screening process can diversify uncompensated risk, potentially leading to less volatility in down markets and an overall smoother experience for investors. But what are factors and why should they be a major consideration for every ETF investor? — J.P. Morgan Asset Management

3.  Don't MAKE the List ... DO the List


There is something gratifying about jotting down all the things you need to do. It quenches one’s thirst for being organized and for wanting some control over one’s life generally complicated by too many things to do with insufficient time and financial resources to do them. — Roy Osing

4. Smart Financial Advice for Those New College Graduates


College graduation is a time of celebration and pride. It’s also a time of significant financial transitions—for new graduates as well as their parents. As an advisor, this is a great opportunity to connect with your NextGen clients to help them make smart decisions that position them for greater financial success throughout their working lives and even into retirement. — Laura McCarron

5. Advisors: Why You Need to Show off Your Bench


Let your prospects see what working with you will be like, including exactly who will be holding their hand along the way. — Paul Kingsman

6. Why Investors Should Have Confidence in the Future of Investment Management


How should investors feel with all the advances in robotics and technology in our industry in the near future? — John Alshefski

7. 2 Things to Take Your Business From Startup Into A Great Business


Want to know how to grow your business fast? Discover here two things that you need to smash in order for you to take your business from startup to a great business. — Stewart Bell​​​​​​​

8. The #1 Marketing Asset Every Financial Advisor Should Hold in the Portfolio


Unlike many other industries, most people in finance confront the reality on a daily basis that a market downturn they have no control over could cast them out onto the street. — Sara Grillo

9. The Gutless Generation: How Risk Aversion Is Inhibiting Millennial Success


One year after I risked everything to launch my own venture, I penned a short article chronicling my journey up to that point. One commenter responded with near-vitriol, wondering how I could be so misguided as to influence – encourage, even – others of my generation to take on extensive levels of risk in order to successfully launch a new business. — Brian Hart

10. Are Your Marketing Priorities Out of Whack?


People are automating hellos and introductions instead of taking 3 seconds to personally do it. Folks are requiring followbacks if they give you one. Everyone believes that ads are the answer. And business owners think they know what’s best for their social channels. — Ahna Hendrix​​​​​​​

11. 10 Steps to Successful Strategic Alliances


Business growth doesn’t come from wishful thinking. As you know, it takes a lot of hard work. The growth of your business is not an option – it is a necessity. Coordinating the right mix of strategies to gain market share and improve client acquisition rates is essential to advance your firm in today’s economy. — Michelle Mosher

Douglas Heikkinen
Perspective
Twitter Email

IRIS Co-Founder and Producer of Perspective—a personal look at the industry, and notables who share what they’ve learned, regretted, won, lost and what continues ... Click for full bio