To better understand a range of perspectives we encounter every day, I’m asking you to imagine a straight line one inch in length. Now consider how many pinpoints one may make along the line. The possibilities are almost infinite, and those pinned points resemble the potential variances in each conversation.
“No” is most often a temporary answer.
I am often approached to test drive brand new products on the market. It’s a treat to be among the first as well as experience the latest thinking. This week, I was asked to test a new service. Learning more about it, I was the one to respond, “not for me.” The product is not consistent with the way I do business, and I do not wish to disrupt what is already in place.
However, the person behind the new product is a long-time friend, and he asked for a conversation. It’s always good to catch up with friends, peers, and clients throughout the year to learn what’s new. And so a date for catching up live was set.
One never knows when new ideas for a collaborative effort might occur. During our conversation, it was evident that while the service is not my style, it could well suit the business model of a couple of people I know. Slowly, I became open to learning more.
Moving from No to Yes
Similarly, should you feel a disconnect on a job interview or in conversation with a prospective client, begin asking the questions on your mind. Be inquisitive, not from an angry point of view for having your time wasted, but from the point of being curious. It is curiosity that frequently builds admiration.
Thought-provoking questions prompt a high-energy conversation, and soon new ideas develop. In turn, the energy and ideas work toward presenting new possibilities for working together. Sometimes this happens during the initial meeting and other times several meetings down the road. But ultimately, the ‘no’ turns into a ‘yes’ when you are open to discovering new perspectives.
Think back to those conversations where you or a client quickly dismissed the ideas presented. How did everything work out after the fact? Were you disappointed that you didn’t give the pros and cons more of an opportunity?
Should you hear ‘no’ from a client or hiring manager, be inquisitive to learn their reasoning. Offer a variety of perspectives to see if it might make a difference. The congenial exchange many times changes one’s opinion.
On the other hand, should you receive a sound ‘no,’ then ask if the answer is:
Exploration of statements and reasoning provide a far broader perspective and allows room for additional creative ideas. In the end, one is far more likely to experience success in securing what they are after.