"I'm almost successful... time to sabotage myself!"Let’s talk about an unpopular topic… self-sabotage.Since founding The Advisor Coach, I’ve gotten the privilege of watching financial advisors build and sustain tremendous success. I’ve also witnessed behaviors that shatter goals and dreams.Behaviors are said to be self-sabotaging when they create problems in your daily life and interfere with your goals.When you think of self-sabotage, you probably think of drugs, alcohol, or other self-destructive behaviors. However, it doesn’t have to be that extreme. Financial advisors can sabotage their success in several different ways, including…
1. They Set Their Goals Too Low
Ever since I created Your First Year As A Financial Advisor, I’ve gotten tons of attention from new financial advisors. These new advisors are often encouraged to set goals for their first year in business. Some of them set huge, lofty goals but, based on my experience, most new financial advisors set the bar too low.Now, why is this phenomenon especially prevalent among new financial advisors? I have a few hypotheses…The first is that they don’t know what’s possible. They’ve never been in financial services before so they have no baseline whatsoever. For all intents and purposes, they’re picking a random number. Because they’re just spitballing potential numbers, some advisors appear full of unbridled enthusiasm while others appear afraid to aim high.My second hypothesis is that their goals are influenced by the other financial advisors they meet. When financial advisors hear about how tough it is to succeed or the industry’s high turnover rate, they get nervous. If other financial advisors tell them how they’ll have to “grind it out” for a few years, low goals are merely a product of confirmation bias.This idea is well beyond the scope of this article but I discuss it in more detail here: 7 Reasons Why Most Financial Advisor Sales Training Completely FailsMy third hypothesis is that they fear change. This is assuming financial advisors ARE thinking accurately about what’s possible and they DON’T have any negative influences. Because when most people talk about “fearing success”, they’re really talking about fearing change. They’re worried that success will turn them into different people. They’re worried that success will alienate their friends and family members.Because of this deep-rooted fear of change, advisors set low goals to remain in their comfort zone.
2. They Associate With Low Achievers
Motivational speaker Jim Rohn once said that we are the average of our five closest friends.Whether you like it or not, you are influenced by the company you keep. Your closest confidantes affect how you think, your self-esteem, and your decisions.It’s a fact of life that some people want to hold others back, like the proverbial crabs in a bucket. So, you might as well accept it and learn how to deal with it instead of wishing reality was different.In my personal life, cutting out all low achievers was one of the best things I’ve ever done. I grew up in a poor area and was beaten over the head every single day with the “graduate and get a good job” mantra. Getting a “good job” was the end goal.It wasn’t until I started associating with high achievers that I started thinking differently. Rather than looking up to the person who was making $100K per year, I started admiring the person making $10M per year. Instead of hanging out with people who wanted to drink beer and watch football on the weekends, I started hanging out with people who studied, reflected, and planned on the weekends.Remember, you can’t soar like an eagle when you hang out with turkeys!
3. They Quit Too Soon
According to Investopedia, up to 90% of financial advisors fail in their careers.This is heartbreaking, especially when people like me work so hard putting together proven marketing and prospecting plans for advisors. Make no bones about it: succeeding as a financial advisor is difficult. It does require hard work and strategic thinking. Yet, it can be done. Thousands of financial advisors have already achieved the success you want to achieve. If you want to replicate their results, you’ve got to replicate what they’ve done.In my experience, most financial advisors tend to be optimists. And there’s nothing wrong with being optimistic unless it takes you away from reality. If the cold, hard reality is that it takes a certain amount of effort to succeed, no amount of positive thinking is going to change that.I’m bringing this up because optimist financial advisors are the ones who (ironically) tend to get discouraged when the going gets tough. This is because they’re optimistic in the sense that they think everything will be easy for them. When things don’t happen as quickly or as easily as they’d like, they get discouraged.Advisors also sabotage themselves by quitting their marketing campaigns too soon. An advisor might send ONE direct mail piece out ONCE and write it off completely if he doesn’t get any results. He’ll just stop trying because of one “failed” effort… even though a few tests could easily turn his mail campaign into a winner. The same is true with all types of marketing ranging social media, content marketing, email marketing, etc.According to Investopedia, up to 90% of financial advisors fail in their careers...
4. They Don't Focus On Productivity
As a financial advisor, your income is closely tied to your productivity. If you can shift from doing $10-per-hour work to $200-per-hour work, you can dramatically increase your bottom line.Alas, many advisors sabotage themselves by continually working on low-value tasks in their business. I’m talking about tasks such as shuffling paperwork around, doing “research” and constantly checking email.Newsflash: nobody ever put a dent in the universe by checking email.The most successful financial advisors are the ones who have a relentless focus on becoming more productive. This drive shows up in their business, their personal life, and their bank balance.
5. They Don't Develop Boundaries
I’ve lost count of how many advisors I’ve met who proudly proclaim that they work 60+ hours per week but still “can’t afford!” my help. Or the ones who are the first to arrive in the office and the last to leave but still can’t crack $250K in personal income.We live in a toxic “hustle!” culture and it’s permeated among financial advisors. Yet, successful advisors understand that they must set boundaries. Because if they don’t, here’s what happens…They work a lot, which means they don’t spend time with their families… which leads to a poor personal life… which impacts their work... and the poor work quality means they spend even MORE time at work… which means they spend even LESS time with their families… and so on.It’s a VICIOUS cycle.This form of self-sabotage is especially dangerous because it seems innocuous. Advisors believe they’re actually doing a GOOD thing by quickly responding to a prospect’s email at 7 p.m. or setting up an initial meeting well into the evening. However, it’s a slippery slope where boundaries get eroded and burnout can occur.
6. They Try To Please Everyone
You’re probably a people-pleaser. So am I. We’re all people-pleasers to some extent because wanting to be approved of and accepted is as natural as wanting food and shelter.However, it’s when you try to please EVERYONE that you encounter problems. Clinical psychologist Dr. Harriet Braiker called it “the disease to please”.Financial advisors who suffer from this disease dread disapproval. As a result, they inoculate themselves against conflict and confrontation. This means they fail to speak up, fail to say what’s on their minds and fail to allow themselves to be genuine.This is self-sabotaging for many reasons, such as:
- Advisors who constantly seek approval are less likely to prospect on a regular basis because they strongly fear rejection.
- Prospects are typically looking for a strong leader to guide them in their financial lives, not a “yes” person.
- Advisors who always agree with what someone says is seen as less trustworthy. Always agreeing may be well-intentioned but hiding what you think isn’t telling the truth. Alarm bells go off in your prospects’ heads when they sense their advisors are being false.
- Trying to please everyone is rooted in the fear of rejection and the fear of failure. However, the biggest failure is failing to be yourself. The biggest rejection is rejecting yourself.
7. They Act ImpulsivelyThere are some people who pride themselves on “moving fast!” and taking “massive action!”. Whenever I encounter these people, I shake my head in pity.Because speed doesn’t matter. Even actions don’t matter. RESULTS matter.I don’t give a crap if you take “massive action!” and call fifty leads as soon as you get to the office. If you’re calling the wrong leads, it doesn’t matter. And if you make poor decisions, then being decisive doesn’t matter.Advisors who act impulsively are usually the ones who don’t set goals. The very act of goal setting is contrary to acting impulsively. Most people tend to jump into tasks that pop up each day without deeply thinking and strategizing about how they’re spending their time.
8. They Don't Invest In ThemselvesAll serious business owners recognize that it takes investments of time and money to grow a business. Anyone who thinks otherwise is just “playing business” in the same way that a young child plays “doctor” or “house”.Allow me to explain this using a stock market analogy…When investing in stocks, value investors try to buy stocks that appear underpriced by some form of fundamental analysis. One of the metrics used is the P/E ratio, or the price-to-earnings ratio. For example, a P/E ratio of 10 means the company will pay 10X earnings.Sadly, a lot of people will jump to buy a stock with a low P/E but not invest in themselves when they can get an even lower “P/E ratio”.Case in point: marketing.Financial advisors will gladly pay 10, 15, or even 25X earnings for stock in someone else’s company instead of investing that same money back into their own businesses, where a dollar spent on marketing could bring two dollars back in a short period of time.By doing this, they’re really saying they have more faith in other people than they have in themselves. Because according to Investment News 2018 Pricing and Profitability benchmarking survey, the typical advisory firm spends no more than 2% of its revenues on marketing.2%?? That’s TERRIBLE. Marketing is literally what builds businesses. By not investing in marketing, financial advisors are saying they don’t want to grow.Let’s do another stock market analogy…As someone who works exclusively with financial advisors, it’s hard for me to go a single day without hearing about “the market”. As you (hopefully) know, the most popular benchmark for “the market” is the S&P 500. It’s the measuring stick most people use when they talk about “beating the market”.Let’s say the S&P has an average annualized total return of around 9%. I’m not going to get into a shouting match with anyone about whether or not that number is correct because people can lie with statistics.My point here is that a 9% return is PITIFUL. Because by investing yourself and your business, you can get a much larger return. For example, a study done by Campaign Monitor found that every $1 spent on email marketing made $44 in return.That’s a 4,400% return on investment… and that’s just ONE example.If you aren’t investing in yourself, you are leaving mountains of money on the table.Email marketing returns an insane $44 for every $1 spent, on average...
9. They Drown Themselves In Self-PityI want you to imagine two financial advisors, Joe and Bob.Both of them had horrible fathers. I mean, complete and total deadbeats.Now, let’s say Joe goes on to become a massive success. If you ask him how he turned out so well, he might say:“I didn’t want to turn out like my father, so I did everything I could to succeed.”Then, let’s say Bob turns out to be a complete failure. He doesn’t even try. If you ask him why he’s not as successful, he might say:“What else did you expect? Just look at my dad.”Do you see the message here? Both of them had terrible fathers, yet one of them used it as rocket fuel for his success while the other one latched onto it as an excuse.The truth is that YOU are in control of your own destiny. Nobody else. And I could give two financial advisors the exact same proven system… but if one of them has a “woe is me” attitude, that advisor will never succeed.Here’s a list of B.S. excuses I’ve heard from advisors over the years:
- “I don’t know anyone!”
- “I don’t have a niche!”
- “I can’t relate to rich people!”
- “I’m too young!”
- “I’m too old!”
- “Nobody supports me!”
- “Compliance always stands in my way!”
- “That won’t work here!”
- “That won’t work for my market!”
- “I’m not a good marketer!”
- The world’s best advisors never wallow in self-pity. They make things happen, regardless of the circumstances. Because they realize that while they can’t control the cards they’re dealt, they CAN control how they play the game.
10. They Get Stuck On The Prospecting TreadmillHere’s one of the best ways to grow a financial services business: build an inbound marketing machine while working outbound marketing tactics.For example, you can call prospects and send direct mail pieces during the day while working on your website and email autoresponder at night. You want to get clients TODAY while building a system that will get them for you TOMORROW.Failing to do this is akin to working when you’re eighty years old because you didn’t save anything for retirement. If you don’t build an inbound marketing machine, you will ALWAYS be a slave to your business.Fortunately for you, one of the best inbound marketing machines ever designed for financial advisors is an email marketing system. And I explain exactly how to use email to get more clients here: