"Before you find your soul mate, you must first discover your soul."
A search for a soul mate, to me, is like going to a romantic movie and yearning for your life to be just as the characters. In these movies, living happily ever after lasts about ninety to one-hundred and twenty minutes. What happens next? Next week? Next year? Ten years from now? Don’t get me wrong, I am a romantic and love romantic love. But the idea of a soul mate has always made me wonder.
To me, we possess a duality—a primitive nature and a divine nature. The latter is where our soul resides. When we look outside of ourselves for “completion” that signals a pursuit directed by our primitive nature and our soul takes a place in the background. Usually looking for the “perfect” mate takes the shape of a to-do or wish list. Our primitive nature is forever insecure as its primary purpose is to insulate us from danger. And if you are waiting or looking for a soul mate, I suggest you honestly evaluate your requirements. You will see that they fit some criteria in order to make you feel safer.
Rather than a soul mate, strive for a soulful relationship. That is one in which both partners do not need each other. Lasting, happy, soulful relationships are not needy ones. Our divine nature does not need anything accept for release from the bounds of our frightened, primitive nature, which keeps it down and hidden. Once each party in the relationship releases their soul, the two together are greater than the sum of their individual parts. And that is the making of an enduring relationship.
So here are six suggestions to help you.
Nurturing your divine nature will help you attract those people into your life that are right for you. When you first discover your soul, you will be free to begin a soulful relationship. And there is no better way to live your everyday extraordinary than to share it with someone whom you love.