Since the start of the year, it’s rained for 13 days in my town. Total rainfall is a whopping 48.4 mm which equals 1.9 inches. When it rains, it’s a big deal; not a surprise in a desert climate. Today, as I write this post, I’m enjoying the pitter-patter of the drops on my roof, happy to be inside, warm and dry. The harder I listen, the more it’s clear the sound has changed. Now, too much water is coming down for our dry ground to absorb quickly. I hear it raging off the house instead of softly tapping on the earth. Five minutes ago the rain made me smile, now I’m over it. Happened fast. When I briefly worked for a startup many years ago, my experience was remarkably like this morning’s rain. It was exciting, unexpected, and a much-needed change until I quickly hit the point of enough.
Quick! Be HonestOkay, so, nobody is looking at you. Raise your hand if the job you once loved now feels like it’s sucking the life out of you. Next question… Raise your hand if that feeling happened within days of starting a new job. You know, the one you really wanted, interviewed for weeks, and carefully considered before making a move. It stinks. You feel powerless and quite frankly like a moron. You thought that the new job would be awesome. Maybe it was more money, a promotion, or challenging responsibilities. Whatever your reason for taking the position, it can be disconcerting when love turns to hate in a heartbeat. Hello, rain. At least when it rains, eventually it stops. What do you do when you hate your job? If you hate your job and you just started, you may feel helpless. You’re not. Also true that if you’ve been in the same role for ages and love has turned to hate, you too have options.
Hate your job? Here are your action steps and options.
Pinpoint the problem.Is it the gap between what you were sold during the interview process and the employee experience? Is your boss, who seemed thoughtful and patient actually a jerk? Are colleagues or culture the issue? If you can’t noodle it through on your own, you may want to work with a coach or reach out to your mentor, trusted colleague, or partner. TIP: Generally hating something isn’t a good launchpad for change. Get specific on the issues.
What would make it better?At the startup, I had some idea of what I needed to feel better supported and enable me to be more successful. With coaching clients in a similar position, I’ll have them take a notepad and draw three long lines down the page and write the following at the top of each column: Expectations >> What made the past great >> What do I need?
- What did I “buy” when I said yes to the job?
- In my past organizations or roles, what did I love?
- What do I need to increase both my happiness and success?